God Knows My Pain

  My son made the decision to leave home just shy of his 18^th birthday.  I was devastated.  He wasn’t moving across town or even to the next state; he would be over 1800 miles away.  He chose to walk away from a secure financial college setting and go into a world of total unknowns.  There was just one thing he was absolutely certain of, he explained: “South Dakota is calling my name.”  As odd as that may seem, I understood when he said those words.  They resonated with my own feelings of that area.  Understanding, however, didn’t lessen the pain of his leaving.  

Joseph’s early adult life had already been filled with surprises.  First he was told to take for his bride a woman who was already pregnant, which was unheard of in those days.  He also discovers the child she is carrying is God’s son.   

Then Joseph received the warning from an angel that he should leave the area where he now lived and journey back to his hometown of Bethlehem.  There he found no room at the inn once he and Mary arrived.  It must have seemed ironic.   The child is born in a manger, an unlikely place for a new birth.   Can it get stranger than this?  

Still Joseph kept his heart and mind open to the Lord.  So when the command came to escape to Egypt, Joseph knew God knew what he was talking about!  Joseph listened.  God had already provided for them sanctuary in a stable; and was now providing sanctuary from King Herod in the unlikely place of Egypt.

God called his son from this place (Egypt), as prophesied in Hosea 11.  (See Matthew 2:13) He called his son out of a place where God’s laws were ignored.  He calls our name from a world of sin if we listen for it.  We then must accept this gift and be obedient to the call.   Symbolically Jesus being called out of Egypt demonstrates the new covenant of Grace.  We are no longer under the law.  It is a new beginning through Christ Jesus which leads us out of sin and death through Grace.  His life would begin with escaping the cruelness of Herod to be thrust into Egypt, but he would endure an even greater cruelness on the cross as he carried the weight of all our sins. 

My heart ached when my son left home.  God’s heart and all the angels must have been broken when Jesus left heaven to come to earth as human, knowing that his leaving meant an even greater sacrifice: his death.  Yet there is joy, because it was through this selfless act that we can know God and live an eternity with him if we accept his greatest gift: His only Son. We can not fail, as we would under the law, unless we choose to turn away from the gift of salvation by faith through Grace.

Have you ever felt intense pain from a loss?  Many of us have.  How do you deal with your pain?  Some lash out, become angry, cry, withdraw, vent or a react a dozen other ways a person deals with grief.  Have you ever considered that God feels your pain?  He knows where your heart is and wants to comfort you.

Most of us know someone who is going through a tough time because of divorce, or even death.  Perhaps a mother is facing the pain and fear as I did, about a child going off to college, or moving to another state because of a career.  What can you do to ease the pain of those hurting?  It might be as easy as a phone call or sending a card.  It might be visiting and allowing them to share their pain while you listen. Bring your thoughts before the Lord and ask for his guidance, and then like Joseph, be obedient.

So he got up, took the child and his mother during the night and left for Egypt, where he stayed until the death of Herod. And so was fulfilled what the Lord had said through the prophet: "Out of Egypt I called my son."   Matthew 2:14-15   

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Missing Opportunities

Paige looked at her husband, fighting tears.  The accident had turned their world upside down.  Gavin was getting better, but was a long way from being able to go back to work and the insurance company was dragging their feet on making good on their policy.  It seemed every time they thought they had everything documented, there was someone who contested something causing delay after delay.  

“You know I don’t want to go back to work and I know you don’t want me to,” she said swallowing hard.  “But it’s the only thing to do.  At least we won’t have to get a sitter.  Your mom said she’d help you watch Joey and Rachel.”

“But,”

“No buts.  I’ve already talked with Mr. Summers at the diner.  I start tomorrow.”

Each of us deal with dark seasons in our lives.  It could be the loss of a loved one, divorce, financial stress, emotional upheavals related to moving or our children, health concerns, or a hundred other things.

There are those who believe our lives are dictated by how the stars align, while others believe our lives are completely in their human hands; each moving forward by the strength of their own decisions. Our personal fate or destiny is still another perspective people will use when shifts in our lives happen.

Others are convinced it’s all about their beauty, abilities, money, status, or intelligence.  Where they are on the “ladder” of whatever business or societal group they are in, they are certain they made the difference, without any help from anyone else. When trouble comes, however, they can’t possibly be responsible.  It’s someone or something else’s fault.

Our God, whether people will admit to it or not, is the Creator of the Universe!  He knows the end from the beginning.  He’s aware of all that happens to each of us. It is He who “aligns” things to happen in his time and for his reasons, although situations can also happen because of free will—and our personal decisions!  Pain is real and happens to everyone.  He doesn’t want us to suffer alone.  He encourages us to come to Him.  He teaches us to use our negative or unpleasant circumstance to grow and then use it!

Sometimes we get “lost” in the confusion, hurting (emotional or physical), anger, insults, or offending situation.  We lose sight of who is “at the wheel.”  We lash out instead of reaching out.  Instead of using our circumstance for good, we inflict more hurt.  There’s an expression that “hurting people, hurt other people.”  There are times when this is true.  But by striking out we are likely going to miss an opportunity to do good.  

No matter what we are going through, we don’t own this “corner of the world” on pain, anger or anything else negative.  There are others in at least the same “corner,” or in a worse place.  

I encourage you to use your circumstance as “defining moments.”  Use the different (or dark) seasons in your life to allow yourself, first to heal if necessary.  Secondly, use these times to make a difference for the Kingdom.  This is where you are really going to find healing.

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Critical Use of Time

         

       My interests include reading, quilting, chatting, my family, traveling and what seems like a ridiculously long list of more! Added to this list, is the necessary “to-do’s.”  After all, I am a mother and even though my children are grown, motherhood doesn’t stop.  I am a grandmother and a wife, house keeper and all those other “titles” that fall in the domestic line; friend, aunt and more! The point is, by the end of most days, I am very tired and my lists are not nearly completed!  I move several items to the next day and then the next.  

            Admittedly, I don’t “work” outside the home and I know there are many women who do.  I applaud them.  I do, however, try to keep up with my writing.  This is what God has called me to do.  It is my responsibility to put on paper the thoughts of my heart that will help and encourage others.  But where does that leave my time?  There are only 24 hours in the day, and I’ll admit sleep is a necessary element of my life.  I spoke with a man today who functioned on about three hours a night.  Me?  Well, I can’t operate like that!  I need (emphasize the need!) about seven hours.  So how do I find the time to spend with the Lord?

            Jesus was a busy man.  He traveled, healed the sick, taught and was about his Father’s business.  But he took “time” to be with those he knew and loved.  He went to the wedding in Cana.  He had supper in the home of Zacchaeus, visited with Mary and Martha and his friend Lazarus, and shared endless hours with his disciples.  But more important than this, Jesus spent time with the Father.

            What made Jesus’ time with the Father so important?  Jesus knew, even though he was God’s son, he was also a man.  Men need to draw strength from others to do well, no matter what his calling.  If Jesus needed to have a relationship with his Father; to spend time with someone he knew as well as he knew himself, isn’t the implication even greater that we need this time?

            We fill our lives with so many things to do; we forget we are defined by how we live our lives or by what we don’t do.  When we forget or neglect to draw strength from our Lord and Savior, our Rock, Fortress and Shelter, what we “do” loses meaning.  We rob ourselves of energy and abilities, not to mention blessings, while our successes risk losing their worth and importance because we attempt to do it on our own away from God. 

            Leisure time is a gift in our world’s economy.  That said, “leisure time” is often defined in perspective.  What one person does for the sheer joy of the activity, others would consider stressful work!  I believe “leisure time” would be defined as spending time being with, or doing things, which brings us to a place of low stress and a place where our minds, bodies and spirits can rest.  Additionally, however, time, no matter how it is defined, is best spent with the Father for a balm to the soul.  And when we make Him part of our daily routine, every day is just….well….better!

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Small But Great

  I saw a movie once where a young man was intimidated by the larger boys on the football team.  His stature was small, although he was quite agile.  His father told him to allow God to use his small size to do something great and wonderful to God’s glory.  At a critical time in the game the young man, relying completely on God since he alone could not humanly complete the task, kicked a field goal well beyond his means and the team won the game.

This same concept is demonstrated with David and Goliath.  He faced what seemed like insurmountable odds when he faced the giant, especially when the giant was holding weapons of war that minimized even more, the simple slingshot and stone, David held in his hand.  

David believed he was following the will of the Lord, however and God saw him through.  The giant, Goliath, was killed by a small, shepherd boy, who had not even yet, been in battle.  David used a small stone and slingshot and God’s strength to down Goliath who carried a sword, wore solid armor and was huge in size.  Yet, God’s plan included showing that if you depend on him, he will bring glory despite obstacles such as size and human strength.

Jesus came to touch the lives of the lowly, much like he touched the town of Bethlehem.  We are all unworthy of Christ’s redemptive power.  Yet, God in his infinite wisdom and love, provided a way for each of us to find grace.  It is through Christ we are born again.

Bethlehem is yet another symbol of the last being first (Matthew 19:30).  Bethlehem was a small town compared to those around it.  It seemed unlikely that a great King could come from such a place.  It didn’t house great politicians or anyone rich and famous.  It seemingly had nothing worthy to offer.  Yet God chose this unlikely place for the birth of Christ.  

Jesus told his disciples that there will be many who are first now but will be last in times to come and those who are last will be first.  Bethlehem was last in the minds of most, as a place of birth for the King of Israel.  It just didn’t seem possible.  Yet Micah many years before Jesus’ birth prophesied that it would be so.  So the question remains, “Why did so many people miss the event?”  Why are there still those who refuse to see Jesus as the Messiah?  

What “giant” are you facing today?  Is there conflict between you and another person, between your head and your heart, from pressures of your peers or desires of your heart that would not be acceptable?  How will you take that ‘giant’ down?  David used an unlikely slingshot and stone.  God used the tiny town of Bethlehem as the birthplace of his Son in the form of a tiny baby, to be a Living Sacrifice, not a full grown king, as many expected.to fight Satan, and the sins of the world. 

We are all given gifts, even if they seem small to us.  Perhaps you think it’s a gift that seems unimportant, unlikely and certainly unused.  Could you, if you dedicated it to God for his glory, use your 'small scaled' gift for something great?  God is just waiting to see what you will offer.  Don’t disappoint him.

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Here I Am, Send Me!

         

       I was talking with a Pastor friend the other day, who actually prefers the title, “Chaplain,” about his ministry in a well known theme park.  The Park actually not only allows, but encourages family unity and traditions, and also Biblical teaching among the employees and guests, if they choose to do so.

         My Chaplain friend provides Sunday services in a small church within the Park for guests who are vacationing and choose to spend their Sunday there.  The church is usually packed with standing room only for the Sunday morning worship service.  Traditional hymns are sung, testimony shared, prayer uplifted and a sermon given. 

         Primarily, however, he provides spiritual guidance, encouragement, teaching, comfort and more, to the 3,000 plus employees of the park on a daily basis.  This is basically why he prefers “Chaplain” to Pastor, Preacher or Reverend.  In many instances he finds himself giving spiritual guidance to people other than those, within his own faith.   While being true to his own faith, he is sensitive to others.  

          He explained in his “job” he is witness to all kinds of needs, much like any other large and thriving business.  As guests of the park, he sees the performers wearing their best smiles, using their best manners and projecting perfect personalities.  But like all “families” there are problems with health, stress, children, aging parents, homesickness and any other malady you can imagine!  Most big businesses provide someone qualified who is available to provide necessary services when required, to employees in need.  In this park, it’s a person who loves the Lord and can offer spiritual aid first, and then all else second.  

        We live in a world where “spiritual” needs tend to come in about second from the bottom and in some cases, doesn’t exist at all.  In fact in some places, it’s considered “illegal” to discuss spiritual matters, to pray, or to reflect any type of Christian faith at all.  We’ve come to a place where we must worry about “offending” those who don’t think like us!  

         Regardless of many people’s belief system (or lack thereof) our God is real and still choreographs amazing miracles in people’s lives.  I have personally seen this happening in my own life and am overwhelmed even as I see the script coming alive!  God is working in the lives of those who love him and choose to say “Yes! Here I am. Send me!”

         Even as He sends us, he knows our unique capabilities and has been preparing hearts, circumstances and even attitudes for many years.  God knows the beginning from the end.  He knows how, when, where and who would be best for a specific task.  Even when we believe we can’t possibly do what we are being asked to do, or be remotely worthy of the challenge, God chooses who He wants in a particular place.  We just have to trust Him to help us meet the challenge with His strength and power.

          I encourage you this week to look where you are right now.  Evaluate what you believe God is asking you to do.  Do you trust Him enough to walk out on faith and say, like Isaiah, “Here, I am.  Send me?”

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A Crystal Clear Sign

My husband and I, some years ago, made the decision to rent the home we were living in, to another family.  That meant literally moving 35 years of “stuff” into a smaller home which we purchased several years earlier.  We had struggled for months trying to decide which home we wanted to live in.    

      Our first residence was built largely by my husband over 25 years ago.  We had central air and heat, an above ground swimming pool, plenty of room, an oversized two car garage, a beautiful yard and virtually everything we had dreamed of.   The home we bought about ten years ago was purchased to help a family member who was struggling in their marriage and was having financial issues.  The home did not have central air or heat, had no pool or garage and in fact wasn’t even “finished” on the inside.  

We had prayed for guidance that would be so clear we couldn’t miss it.  The answer came when we learned of a family needing a large home for five, of their nine children.  We raised five in ours and knew room wouldn’t be an issue.  My husband and I had the exact same idea simultaneously, within just seconds of each other.  We knew God had given us each the idea and knew conclusively we would move, and allow this other family to use our home.  This was the sign we had prayed for.

Signs from God can come in a variety of ways.  The biggest road block can come from not being open to his voice in whatever form it comes.  It may be a still small voice, a verse from the Bible that speaks clearly to the problem, a talk with a friend or Pastor, and sometimes you might even find the answer through a dream.  

Years before Christ was born, people wanted a sign so they would know when the Messiah would come.  They were testing Isaiah’s patience with doubt and unbelief.  Further they tested God’s patience by asking for a sign that would be unmistakably clear.  Isaiah prophesied that the Messiah would come by way of Virgin Birth.  The child would be a son and be Immanuel meaning “God with us.”  Yet many missed his coming.  Their perception of a “king” to save them was different from what God promised.  The sign was crystal clear, yet clearly fuzzy to those waiting for him at the time of his birth.

That is true no less today.  Many people want to be saved from their miseries.  They long for peace and understanding.  They desire love and fulfillment.  Yet they are missing the signs.  As the end of this age creeps ever closer, those who are distressing, search for relief in drugs, alcohol, immoral acts, adultery, pornography and other types of sinful behaviors that brings them no closer to what they really long for; and can only receive from Jesus.  They don’t recognize the gift before them: Jesus the Christ.  It is only through him we can find peace, fulfillment, understanding and unconditional love.  

Have you been searching for an answer in your life?  Have you given the problem to God?  Do you agree that God cares about all areas of our lives, both big and small?  Write down the biggest personal problem you are facing right now.  Document in writing a problem that seems unimportant to most people, but important to you.  

Look at each area of your life.  Consider personal, financial, spiritual, emotional and social.  Record challenges in each area which requires more than you can do alone.  Turn those problems, issues, requests, desires and anything else you’ve written down, over to God.  Lay them at His feet and allow him to work out the details.

Then Isaiah said, "Hear now, you house of David! Is it not enough to try the patience of men? Will you try the patience of my God also?   Therefore the Lord himself will give you a sign: The virgin will be with child and will give birth to a son, and will call him Immanuel.  Isaiah 7:13-14  

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Faith Greater Than My Fear

As I sit here, penning my thoughts, Hurricane Helene has moved through and created so much havoc, chaos and devastation for surrounding areas, it’s downright mind boggling.  The washed away roads, homes, landscapes and more importantly lives, is beyond comprehension. 

There are those in Asheville N.C. and other areas who are reeling from the massive destruction, since their town isn’t even recognizable.  It will take months, perhaps even years before all or most roads are completed, and there are areas where recovery may never happen! 

When you add the recent hurricanes, Idalia, Berly and Debby, among others, and the newest, Milton ---preparing to hit central Florida; along with all the horrific fires ravaging the West, it seems a little eerie!  Then, when you consider the school shootings, other horrific crime scenes across our nation and the world, it’s a little like a mirror image of the weather!  It's shocking, unsettling, and makes a body a little nervous and anxious about what might be next.

We're in a season of political unrest given the upcoming election, and that doesn't help any.  As a country, we're so divided, it's frightening! Who would have thought even ten or fifteen years ago that our nation would be in such turmoil?  Or sure, there was dissension and even conflict, but the viciousness of people now multiplied by their hate, is downright scary!

I was reading about how Africa went through a military overthrow of the government. The writer of this article was terrified for her life as she remembered forty-five years earlier when she was a child, how she and her family were spared death because of their faith in God and the prayers they raised up to Him.

Yet, there are those Believers who minister in other countries and face death from a non-welcoming government daily.  Even citizens who live in these places are under this kind of threat should they believe in Jesus Christ.

I am convinced the turmoil we are facing today is directly related to the second coming of Christ.  As a human it’s natural to have fear.  Just this morning there was a headline on the news which said, “War is coming!”  I can’t even imagine what format that would take, or even how you would know who your enemy is, since it would be based (I believe) on your political views!

During the Civil War it was North against South and there are those who left their homes from one side or the other, given their conviction, and physically went to that geographic location!  How on earth would we find a dividing line now?  Again, I have no answers, but it’s certain fodder for fear and lots more questions!

Despite what we are facing, there is another certainty.  Jesus will return and we, even as Believers, will not be spared suffering.  It is the End Times.  We must face that, but I suggest not with fear, which is what the enemy would prefer, but with a level of joy they could not begin to understand.  It is here my faith must be greater than my fear!

As Believers, we know when our time on this Earth –our temporary home—is done, we will come face to face with the Father.  I can’t wait to see Jesus!  Oh, my goodness, can you even imagine the joy?  Now that said, don’t think I want war, violence or any other kind of ugliness to precipitate my going!  But knowing this, absolutely can, if not totally take away the fear, at least lessen it.  One day I’m gonna see Jesus face to face and that my friend is reason for joy!

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