A friend shares the story of how after losing her husband five years earlier, her community of believers whom she’d known nearly all her life, seemed to completely forget her. When they saw her in person, they were quick to ask how she was, and as quickly say ‘Call me if you need me.’ and walk away. She felt lost and all alone.
Her grown children while here for a while, lived in other states miles away. They went back to their lives, even though they called often, they couldn’t spend ‘time’ with her. The last thing, she explained, that she wanted to do was call someone when she was broken, sad or feeling lost. She said, “I just cried.”
While it’s true no one can ‘know’ just when a person needs something, a random call, a text message, even a simple thinking of you card, in the mail is always appreciated. We forget that sometimes, when we get so wrapped up in our own lives.
We’re all busy. There are domestic duties to take care of, sports events to attend, TV shows that we can’t miss and yard work or a hundred other unique things we all choose to do, which seem to run our lives. But what of our neighbor who is going through a bad time? Are we being ‘God’s people’ when we choose to not reach out?
Part of the mission God gave us is to take care of each other. We are asked to encourage and bear with one another; offering fellowship, to take care of widows and others who have needs. When we forget our role in this manner, aren’t we also forgetting our identity in Christ? We claim to be believers; someone who mirrors Christ, who reflects His Character. But would Christ forget and seemingly recall someone’s need only when he saw them?
As God’s people we are not meant to remain hidden. We are supposed to be out there embracing others in our homes, our workplaces and in our communities. Instead of doing these things, are we compromising our values and beliefs by making sure our own interests are in the forefront of our lives? Is the culture in which we live dictating what has priority in all we do?
Make no mistake, certainly we do need to take care of our own families, but as a believer it becomes more than that! Our lives are a witness to what we believe. Are our actions declaring God’s goodness to others? Are others seeing that we are choosing unity or are our decisions ultimately dividing ‘the family’ out of hurt and pain?
Peter called believers a “chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation”. (See 1 Peter 2:9) His description is our identity in Christ. It’s who we are. But our identity initiates activity. Are we being who God says we are, or are we chasing other things in which the world labels important?
So I wonder, is there someone you know who could use a visit, perhaps a meal or a dessert, or just some time spent one on one over a cup of coffee or tea? Would a phone call take more than a few minutes of your time?
Sometimes it’s not even about a loss of a loved one, like my friend. It might just be they are going through a difficult time, they may or may not want to talk about and feel alone and in need of some conversation. They might not need anything visible…just in need of fellowship with another believer who wants to encourage, build up and bring a smile to their day! Might that be you?